If you’ve just gone through a breakup, then chances are you might be asking yourself, “Should I talk to my ex?”
When it comes to this question, many relationship experts say the same thing: “You shouldn’t contact your ex for ‘X’ amount of days!”
I’m not putting this information down at all, because in all honestly, you shouldn’t contact your ex for at least 30 days after your breakup. However, a lot of men and women make the same mistake before they initiate the well-known “no contact” period. Most guys and girls think that simply not talking to their ex for a period of time will just magically work. Well, unfortunately, you’ve been completely misled – that is, up until this point.
Before you start your no contact period, it’s important to send your ex Strong Signals.
So what do I mean by Strong Signals? Well, simply put, strong signals are indicators that let your ex know that you haven’t been fazed by the breakup. For example, after your partner dumps you, instead of crying, begging or pleading for him or her to change their mind, you simply say, “Okay, I’ve actually been feeling the same way”.
What you’re doing is effectively taking power away from the “dumper” in placing it with you, the “dumpee.”
I mean, imagine that you were about to dump your boyfriend or girlfriend, and after you tell them you want to break up they just said “Okay,” and left the room. That would be sort of weird, right? In fact, it would probably compel you to want to talk to them about it and ask them why they are so indifferent.
Another strong signal is saying something like:
“I’d like to say that I think that our breakup was the best choice. I think we really needed this extra space. Thank you.”
Once you do something like this, then it’s time to initiate the no contact period. This way, you’ll be starting off from a position of power vs. a position of weakness – guaranteed.
The opposite of a Strong Signal is (surprise, surprise) a Weak Signal. These can range from begging and pleading, to acting depressed, crying, etc. If you’ve practiced weak signals in the past then that may be one of the reasons why your relationship has failed.
Weak signals are a product of insecurity. I understand that not everyone can control their emotions — if you’re the jealous type, there’s nothing I can do or say to make you stop being a jealous person, but what you need to realize is that you can’t let your partner know that you’re jealous.
The Video That Will Explain Whether You Should Talk to Your Ex
If you want to learn more about whether or not you should be talking to your ex right now and get more tips for sending him or her strong signals, then watch the free video below.