One of the first things you need to do before you can even think about getting your ex back is learn how to cope with and recover from a breakup.

Why? Because your ex isn’t likely to get back together with you if you’re a broken person. As counter-intuitive as it sounds, it’s important that you focus on yourself and ignore trying to get your ex back (for now).

It’s very likely that the reason why your ex left you wasn’t accompanied by a long, drawn out explanation. In fact, your ex is likely just hiding the fact that they’ve lost attraction for you. I know, it hurts to hear this, but it’s the truth. But that’s not to say you can’t get them back in your life, and if you follow my advice you will be able to.

The first thing you must do is realize that the reason why they left you was because you were exhibiting a trait that isn’t attractive to them. We’ll get to the list of scientifically proven attractive (and unattractive) traits in the next article, but for right now, we need to get your head on straight!

To get you started, here are five tips that will help you feel better about your situation and boost your confidence.

1.)  Put the breakup behind you.

Easier said than done, I know, but this is for the best! To help you temporarily forget about your ex, delete their number from your cell phone, block him or her on social media, and remove any reminders that you may have lying around your house. In other words, do whatever you can to limit your exposure to them; seeing or hearing about them will not help you recover from your breakup.

Recovering from your breakup can be tough!

2.)  Rely on your friends for support.

Friendship is one of the most important things in life and there’s no better time to lean on your friends for support and fun than after a breakup. Remember, fun is one of the best coping mechanisms you can use to help yourself get over a breakup. Plus, if you have good friends, they’ll have an easy time making you laugh, even if it feels like you can’t right now.

3.)  Exercise, exercise, exercise!

Studies have shown that exercise can increase the amount of serotonin and dopamine in your body, thus making you feel happier. Even though it’s probably one of the last things you want to do right now, it will make you feel good. After all, have you ever heard anyone say, “Man, that workout made me feel really depressed!”?  Probably not. Go for a jog and I promise you’ll feel ten times better after.

4.) Date other people.

Yes, dating other people is another thing that you probably aren’t in the mood for, but doing so will lift your confidence and spirit. It’s also a great way to make your ex jealous, and maybe make him or her realize just how desirable you are!

5.) Be productive.

Depending on the type of person you are, you might want to hunker down and get some stuff done! Is there a project at work that needs more attention? Maybe you’re in school, in which case there’s always something to be done. Whatever it is, keeping yourself busy now is one of the best ways to cope with your breakup.

If you want to learn more coping mechanisms, check out the video below.



If after recovering you’re still interested in winning your ex back then check out this article by my friend and relationship coach, Brad Browning.