So you’ve waited weeks (maybe even months) for this moment. Now that it’s here, don’t freak out; I’ll tell you what to do.
Learning how to talk to your ex again can be really stressful and chances are a billion things are going through your head:
What should I say?
Will he/she respond to me?
What if he doesn’t?
What if she does?
Before we get into how you’re going to talk to your ex, we have to make sure that you’ve done a few crucial things before engaging in contact.
First, we have to make sure that you’ve recovered from your breakup and you understand why it failed.
Second, it’s important that you’ve employed the no contact technique and have been been doing things to increase your social value.
If you haven’t fully accomplished the above, then I recommend going back to my earlier guides before reading on.
So, what’s the best way to contact your ex? Well, if you two were the type to text each other a lot, then I would recommend visiting my article on text messaging. However, if you’re planning on calling your ex, then I have to warn you that it’s important to be ready for this situation. A lot of men and women completely blow this step. Remember, people can tell how needy you are simply by hearing your voice. If you’re not in a good state, I can promise you it will show in your tone. You’ll stutter, you’ll mess up, you’ll sound nervous, etc. If this happens then you’ll have to start the process all over again from square one, so be very careful and make sure that you’re prepared to make the call.
So, what should you say when you call?
Try what I like to call the incidental contact technique. It’s compelling and will encourage your ex to respond. To do so, follow these steps:
Call your ex at a time when you know they won’t pick up. Why? Because it’ll take you to their voicemail, which is exactly what you want to happen. Yes, as weird as it sounds, you’re going to want to leave a short message on their voicemail first. A simple phone conversation right now may be too overwhelming for your ex, and chances are they’ll get weirded out. Instead, call at a time when it would be unlikely for your ex to pick up.
When you do leave a message, make sure it’s thoughtful by using my Covert Response Message. For example, say something like:
“Hey, Stanley’s Bicycles is having a sale on mountain bikes! Thought you’d like to know since you wanted that bike. Anyways, hope all is well.”
Why does this work? First of all, you’re making it seem like you want to talk to your ex for a reason. You aren’t calling him or her to beg, plead, and cry about your life — you’re actually providing them with valuable information that’s thoughtful!
Another crucial part of this voice message is that you’re not asking your ex to return your call. You’re ending the message with, “Anyways, hope all is well”. Remember, we’re trying to convey that you’re completely over the breakup and that you aren’t going to accomplish this by asking them to call you back. Get my drift here?
By now you might be asking, “Well… how should I speak when I talk to my ex again?”
Remember that what you say is just as important has how you say it. If you’re talking with a stutter or you sound like you have no idea why you’re calling, your ex will call your bluff and it’ll blow your chances of them responding to you in the way that you want. However, if you leave this message correctly, your ex will be thinking of you and at least respond to you, and from there you can start building much more attraction.
So, in summary:
- You’ll want to make sure that you’re calling your ex when you know that he or she is busy at work or when you know they aren’t going to pick up the phone.
- You’ll want to leave a short, brief, and thoughtful message. You need to make sure that you sound happy, calm, and relaxed.
- You need to make sure that you end the message properly by saying something like, “Hope all is well!” so as to not rouse their suspicion that you actually want to engage them in lengthier interaction.
Of course, this is only a small fraction of my full approach. In the free video below, my close friend (and one heck of a relationship counsellor) will go over the craziest technique you can employ in order to meet up with and seduce your ex. It’s a pretty controversial video, so you better head over there before it’s taken down!
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