So you’ve waited weeks (maybe even months) for this faithful moment. It’s been building up quite a bit, hasn’t it? But don’t freak out! I’ll tell you what to do.
Learning how to talk to your ex again can be really stressful. A billion things are probably going through your head…
What the heck should I say?
Will he/she respond to me?
What if he doesn’t?
What if she does?
But before we get into how you’re going to talk to your ex, we have to make sure that you’ve done a few crucial things before engaging in contact. We have to make sure that you’ve fully recovered from your breakup and you understand why it failed. It’s also crucial that you’ve employed the no contact technique and that you’ve also been doing things increase your social value. If you haven’t fully accomplished the above, then I recommend going back to my earlier guides first before reading onward.
So what’s the best way to contact your ex? Well, if you two were the type to text each other a lot, then I would recommend visiting my article on text messaging first. But if you’re planning on calling your ex to get in contact with him or her, then I have to first warn you that you have to be ready for this situation. A lot of men and women will completely blow it in this step. Remember that people can tell how needy you are simply by just listening to your voice. If you’re not in a good state, I can promise you it will show in your face. You’ll stutter, you’ll mess up, you’ll sound nervous, etc. And if you do mess up, you’ll have to start the process all over again from square one, so be very careful.
You need to make sure that you’re really ready to make this phone call!
But what should you say? This is what I like to call the incidental contact technique. If you want to really learn how to talk to your ex again and compel them to really respond, then try this out…
Call them when you know that they won’t pickup. Why? Because you want to get their voicemail. Yes, as weird as it sounds, you’re going to want to leave a short message on their voicemail first. A simple phone conversation right now will be much too overwhelming with your ex, and chances are, they’ll get weirded out. So make sure you’re calling your ex when it’s likely they’re at work and do not call them late at night.
You’ll want to leave a thoughtful message. This is what I like to call the Covert Response Message. For example, say something like…
“Hey, Stanley’s Bicycle’s is having a sale on mountain bikes! Thought you’d like to know since you wanted that bike. Anyways, hope all is well.”
And that’s it. Why does this work? First of all, you’re making it seem like you want to talk to your ex for a very good reason. You aren’t calling him or her to beg, plead, and cry about your life — you’re actually providing them with real value. Not only this, but what you’re saying is actually quite thoughtful!
Another crucial part of this voice message is that you’re not asking them to return your call. You’re ending the message with, “Anyways, hope all is well.” Remember, we’re trying to convey to your ex that you’re completely over the breakup and you aren’t going to accomplish by asking them to call you back. Get my drift here?
But now, you might be asking, “Well… how should I speak when I talk to my ex again?”
Remember that what you say is just as important has how you say it. If you’re talking with a stutter or you sound like you have no idea why you’re calling, your ex will call your bluff and you will absolutely blow your chances of them responding to you.
But if you leave this message correctly, your ex to at least respond to you, and from there you can start building much more attraction and eventually, your goal is to have sex with your ex (but we’ll get to that much later). For now, you just need to know how to make first contact with your partner.
So in summary, you’ll want to make sure that you’re calling your ex when you know that he or she is busy at work or when you know they aren’t going to pick up the phone. Secondly, you’ll want to leave a short, brief, and thoughtful message. You need to make sure that you sound happy, calm, and relaxed. Lastly, you need to make sure that you end the message properly by saying something like, “Hope all is well!” as to not rouse their suspicion that you actually want to talk to them.
But this is only a small fraction of my full approach. In this free video below, my close friend (and one heck of a relationship counsellor) will go over the craziest technique on how you can meet up and seduce your ex. It’s a pretty controversial video so you better head over there before it’s taken down!